Dear Jack,
At what point do we decide to let our boy cross the Rainbow Bridge? It's heartbreaking to see him struggle but I can't imagine letting him cross over while he is still also showing us that he is happy. What else do I need to remember at this difficult time?
What I can tell you is that he is happy because he senses that relief is coming soon and he knows that you know it’s coming soon too. He is empathetic and he can feel your feelings and concerns. When you love like this, you will know when the time is right, and when you have made that decision, there is a kind of peace that comes with it. You WILL know when the right time is, he will tell you. He will be ready to go when his suffering is greater than his desire to remain in his earthly body. Wishing you strength and understanding at this difficult time.
Love, Jack
It’s the most unselfish act on earth, to let go of one we have called Beloved.
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About this letter
This letter is part of Jack McAfghan: Letters From Rainbow Bridge. A reader asks at what point they should let their boy cross the Rainbow Bridge, since it is heartbreaking to see him struggle but he still seems happy. Jack's reply offers reassurance for one of the hardest questions a pet parent faces.
What Jack says
Jack explains that a pet can feel your feelings and concerns, and that when you love this deeply you will know when the time is right. He says a kind of peace comes with the decision, and that a pet will be ready when their suffering is greater than their desire to remain in their earthly body. The letter also describes letting go of a beloved companion as the most unselfish act on earth.
Talk to your vet about quality of life
If you are facing this decision, your veterinarian can help you assess your pet's comfort and quality of life, and explain what to expect. Many people find that a simple list of good days and bad days makes the picture clearer. Whatever you decide, it comes from love.
