Dear Jack,
I’m still crying. Sunday will mark the one-year anniversary of my girl’s passing over the Rainbow Bridge. It has been a difficult year. When on earth will the crying end?
The day will come and you will find that your love is stronger than your tears. You'll see. You never know until it happens and then you look at yourself and say, "Oh my! I am thinking these sad thoughts but I no longer react to them because they are no longer my reality," and that is the day your girl will celebrate and be able to return to you in many different ways. When you push the grief aside, you make room for her to come to you.
Love, Jack
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About this letter
This letter is part of Jack McAfghan: Letters From Rainbow Bridge. A reader writes that they are still crying as the one-year anniversary of their girl's passing approaches, and asks when the crying will end. Jack's reply is gentle and hopeful.
What Jack says
Jack tells the reader that the day will come when they find their love is stronger than their tears. He describes noticing that you can think sad thoughts without reacting to them because they are no longer your reality. He says that when you push the grief aside, you make room for your girl to come to you in many different ways.
If the tears have not eased
Many people are surprised that grief can still be strong a year after a loss. This is common, and it does not mean you are doing it wrong. Crying can be a healthy release, and the intensity usually softens over time. If your grief feels stuck or is affecting your daily life, a counselor or support group can help.
