Dear Jack,
My boy died several weeks ago and I am struggling. One of my best friends took me out to dinner last night. Just as I went to speak of my boy with tears in my eyes, she said she didn’t want to hear about him. She said that this night was to get me away from that and to just focus on other things. But I didn’t WANT to focus on other things! I am beyond angry and I don’t know how to handle it.
I’m sorry for your loss. You are extra sensitive right now and your “nerves” are exposed by your grief. Be careful not to make rash decisions. Anger and depression can overshadow reality. Be careful not to burn your bridges now, perhaps regretting it later.
Your anger is a sign of strength and that’s actually a good thing. You are still deeply grieving. Perhaps your friend has unresolved grief of her own that is triggered by your distress. I have seen it often. They care so much that they have to pull back to survive their own grief from the past. Then again, some people think that changing the subject will help bring you relief by getting your mind off of it. Unfortunately, as you have discovered, this approach can be painful because it makes them seem not to care.
If you lived in unconditional love, you would forgive all of them and accept their apologies. It would be good for you to sit quietly with your hands upon your heart and feel the love that is there, the truth that is there, the universe that is there, the world where your boy now resides. It will bring perspective and strengthen your faith.
Love, Jack
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